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Get A Little Closer...
A New Year's Resolution For Your Love Life!
by Lynn Turner
It
is so funny how things change without you being aware of it after you
have children. Where you and your honey the type of people that always
said that when you finally decided to have children you were going to
make a commitment to always put your relationship first? Did you
promise not to end up like so many couples after the children grow up
and are off to college and find themselves disconnected, leading
separate lives under the same roof-living just for their kids? Many of
us find that scenario depressing. Having kids can quickly lead you
down that path. We all love our kids but they don't necessarily make
you closer as a couple. With the time demands and increased
responsibilities, before we know it, many of us find ourselves in place
that we always said we'd never be. Many of us might estimate our day
divided up in a pie with 60% going to our kids, 10% to our spouse, 20%
the house, and just 10% (or less) for ourselves. Yikes! Don't panic,
its never too late to start the tides of change!
Here is a list of a few things to start putting yourself and your spouse back on track in 2009.
1.
Start a date night. Make a commitment to go on a date at least once a
month with your honey- (squeeze in more if possible). To get started
you might just have to bite the bullet and finally leave the kids with
the sitter! P.S. We've made preparing to leave the kids with the sitter
easy...check out our Parent Memo Blueprint.
2. Give your honey a call to check in to see how the day is going instead of talking about what's going on with the kids.
3.
Sleep in and lounge around on Saturday or Sunday morning and just
snuggle or talk a bit before getting up and getting on with your daily
routine.
4. Surprise your honey with an unexpected hug or whispering sweet nothings....
5. Say l love you more often.
6. Initiate intimacy/sex.
7. Let go and enjoy the moment...Try to clear your mind of all the things you need to do and just enjoy being together.
8.
Go with the flow. If your spouse is watching football or something you
are not into, just sit together and have fun anyway...quality time can
be anytime.
9. Think back to before you had kids. What did you enjoy doing most together? Bring back one or two.
10.
A lot of moms are overworked and not getting enough help. When this
happens we don't always feel like being romantic or we aren't
necessarily "in the mood." Try to get your spouse to help out more.
Alleviating some of your load is bound to help get you in the mood! If
you need tips read our article on getting more help around the house.
Remember this is going to require ongoing work until you've got a nice
established pattern down. Lastly, not only is this good for your
marriage but its also good role modeling for your kids.
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